As cliché as it is sounds sorry can be the hardest word. Sorry is so difficult to say because we think that when we say sorry we’re giving power to another person over us, that it makes us weak. Why should we apologise when it’s not our fault? Doesn’t saying sorry mean you did something wrong?
Some where, some time ago we learn that saying sorry is a sign of weakness, that we shouldn’t apologise if it’s not our fault, that we’d be a fool for doing so. We need to get rid of these misconceptions, these limiting core beliefs we hold that serve us no good.
When you are the first person to say sorry, you are taking a step back and expressing humility with grace. When you say sorry, you are expressing of your sincere regret for the things that have gone wrong, for your feeling of lack of love. Negative emotions, feelings are really just a lack of love, a separation from what we want – to be able to give love, our core, purest of emotions.
Forgiving does not make you a weak person and does not mean you are to blame. Instead it means you have the humility to forgive those who have hurt you, and that you are a strong person who is able turn pain into power by letting go of pain, and freeing yourself from misery.
By saying sorry you forgive someone else, but you are also forgive yourself. You free yourself from mistakes, them from their mistakes, the pain and suffering, creating space for serenity and inner peace.
When we are compassionate, loving and grateful we can only receive more love. We can’t expect to be loved if we don’t even give love ourselves, if we’re not even grateful for what we have right now. Giving to others allows us to feel so much happiness.
And when you come from a place of unconditional love, people can’t help but feel affected by it.
Life is too short to waste your time holding grudges, being angry, bitter or upset. Wish people well, even the ones who have hurt you, hope that they become better people and find themselves because often the people who hurt us intentionally or unintentionally are hurting themselves.
Live gracefully. Live forgivingly.
“For whatever we lose (like a you or me), It’s always our self we find in the sea.”
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