For a lot of people, at some point in their lives, they find themselves living a life they don’t want. It feels like they’re living a lie and it is easy to fall into hopelessness.
People become discouraged and disheartened by the present, not being able to see beyond the current situation they’re in and believing that where they are now is where they will always be. But this is far from the truth. Where you are does not define your future.
Sometimes we have to go through difficult things to get to where we want to go. And the things we have to do in order to get to where we want to be is just a means to an end. We have to put in the hard work today to create the future we want tomorrow.
Whatever it is now that you are going through and trying to endure; find peace in the realisation and truth that where you are is not where you will be.
If you dislike your job and it is just a means to an end for you, have solace in knowing you are doing it for a better future, for the future you want and that you won’t always be here. Remind yourself of why you are doing it – the end goal. When you feel like giving up, find the reason that will keep you going. The place where you are now is temporary. In trying times, you must not lose sight of where you are headed.
Find aspects of your job you like or if you cannot; then really think about how it is making you into a better person. This isn’t easy to do, you have to look hard. How is it making you a better version of yourself, helping you to grow or move towards your end goal? This will make your job a lot less arduous and unfulfilling.
There is always something we can gain and learn from our experiences, no matter how we felt about them at the time. Negative experiences teach us a lot but we only realise in hindsight. We learn to adapt, grow, become patient, we develop humility and strength in character.
To help you get through difficult times, do something every day that you can enjoy so that you have something to look forward to every day. Even if it’s something small, make sure to make time for it in your daily routine. It’ll make a difference to your overall, long term fulfilment and keep you sane. Think of it as a reward for your efforts doing the other things you don’t like so much.
This is not to force yourself to do things you hate and simply distract yourself, but to find balance between the work you must do – the means of the end goal and making time for the things you enjoy.
Life’s not easy and there are times you feel like giving up. Do not give up. Sometimes when you are about to give up, you are close to achieving our goals. Success is rewarded to those who work hard for it, persevere and never give up. Your efforts will be worth it in the end, just try to appreciate the journey for what you can gain from it.
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