For those who have concrete dreams, goals of things they want, it is easier to know how they might get there because they know the end point they want to arrive at. But what about those who aren’t quite sure what they want, what their passions and dreams are? A friend of mine said something similar to me the other day and it made me ponder the difficult question what if you don’t know what you want to do? And ponder for myself what my own dreams are?
For some people who don’t exactly know what they want to do for a job or career yet feel stagnant, uninspired and don’t enjoy their current job situation, it is clear that they could consider doing something else. This is not easy at all, especially if they are comfortable with their job and the pay is good. Why would they leave or something with no guarantee of stability? So I understand why many stay in jobs they are unhappy with – because it pays the bills, for a family they have to look after, because it is familiar and comfortable. It is the easiest option. Having family to look after and other commitments makes it much harder to leave a job than if you had no one else depending on you. I cannot comment much on this type of situation because right now where in my life, I am more free and my actions won’t affect anyone other than me really. However I will say, the question to ask yourself if you find yourself at crossroads is are you really happy? Is your happiness more important or stability? or is there any other way you could change jobs but still provide for your family?
But for those of you, like myself who either know what you want to do or know what you don’t want to do e.g. your current job, I have some suggestions to help you move closer towards doing something you enjoy more. The suggestions may seem simple but it is the little things, the actions done day in and day out that will get you closer to where you want to go. If you are unsure about what it is that you want to do, try new things, and note down from these and previous experiences what it is you like, it can be something specific or something more generic like working with people. The more things you try, the more you will understand what you enjoy. And I think if you have a hobby or skill you enjoy that it is important to make time for it, to practice it, to cultivate it, to hone in on your skills day in and day out.
Don’t worry about what other people think, you are doing this for you and not for anyone else. At the end of the day, this is your life, don’t live for anyone else. You only have one life, we hear that all the time, but when you really think about it, it is alarming how many of us waste our lives doing what other people tell us, what society tells us we should be doing. So consider the bigger picture, when you are older and not able to do the things you could when you are young, what do you want to be proud of? There is a saying you regret the things you didn’t do the most. So take risks and make mistakes. No one is perfect, you are unlikely to be successful or get what you want the first time. This applies for all walks of life, relationships, careers, finance etc. I believe that when we follow our hearts, opportunities will present to us but also we must put in the effort, to give it our all to make our dreams come true and to create or own opportunities in life.
It is easy to give up and give in to the life you believe you were destined to live even if it’s not what you want. Getting out of something you’ve been in for so long can be frightening, and a big risk to take. But realise that fear is your biggest obstacle and belief is your greatest power. You must believe in yourself if you are ever to make progress, you cannot achieve anything if you don’t believe in yourself. If even you don’t believe in yourself, then who is going to? So I encourage you to keep following your heart, trusting yourself in the things that you are drawn to, that you enjoy, that you lose yourself in, and to have faith in yourself that you have something to give the world.