Recently I caught myself realising when I was having negative thoughts about myself. I became aware that I was aware of my unhelpful thoughts, because rather than mindlessly accepting them as truths, I questioned them with a "but why?" — why would I think this? And then I realised my irrational, unhelpful thoughts were from some … Continue reading Why Not Me?
Sometimes we feel stuck, and we feel bad when we look at how well others are doing, other people with the life, body, career that we wish we had. But to compare yourself with anyone except yourself is not a fair comparison. How could it ever be? You should not be competing with anyone but … Continue reading Comparison
Appearances, self image, how we view ourselves is paramount and affects us in everything we do. Yet our physical appearance and how others see us, can be very different from how we view ourselves - our self image. We all hold certain beliefs about ourselves, which manifests as particular traits we believe are part of … Continue reading Keeping Up Appearances
"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle." A written publication for The Seeds 4 Life. Sometimes life can present us challenges that seem impossible and unfair. It's easy to feel good about yourself and your achievements when things are going well. … Continue reading Believe in Yourself
In a culture filled with motivational, self help and personal development; happiness is a highly sought after commodity. We think once we make money,buy that new car, find a relationship or achieve x,y,z (the list goes on...) then we'll finally be happy. But once we get what we want, we find our initial excitement and happiness fades and … Continue reading The Journey of Happiness
A written publication for The Seeds 4 Life. "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, which is why we call it the present.” ― Bill Keane It's our human nature to regret the past - a mistake we made, a decision we should of made or a chance we didn't take. We … Continue reading Yesterday is History
We often project ideals - flawless, faultless, perfect versions of the people we're attracted to, people we are interested in. But these qualities are just ideals. People are not flawless nor are they faultless, they are real and human with their good traits and bad traits. Seeing only their good traits in your idealised version of them … Continue reading Ideals and Standards
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit." Aristotle Most of us are not simply born good at things, although you could say that there is the rare occasion of talent. But even talent alone is not enough to make someone exceptional. Someone who is talented is not as good as someone who puts … Continue reading Excellence, a Habit.
It can be scary thinking about the future. Sometimes our big future goals can seem a mammoth task in which we don't even know where to begin. We can't see how we're possibly going to achieve them. And so we feel discouraged before we've even started. It's not that our end goals are unachievable or unrealistic but without … Continue reading Rituals, Habits, Goals.
Learning from the past for makes for a better life, not learning leaves us falling into the same old patterns again, thinking why does this always happen to me? Repeating the same old behaviours is not going to change the experiences we have so therefore we must change our behaviours to get different results, but equally … Continue reading The Past, Present and Future